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Julie Schwartz Gottman Books

4 books·~40 min total read

John Gottman, Ph. , and Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.

Known for: Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, The Five Core Conversations for Couples: Daily Habits for Extraordinary Relationships, The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy, The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want

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Date 1 – Trust and Commitment

Trust is the oxygen of love. Without it, the relationship can’t breathe. Over the years, we’ve seen that trust is not built through grand promises, but through daily reliability—doing what you say you’ll do, being present when your partner needs you, and choosing connection over withdrawal. The firs...

From Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

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Date 2 – Conflict

Every relationship has conflict; what matters is how you handle it. We’ve long distinguished between solvable problems—those practical issues you can find compromise around—and perpetual problems, those rooted in differences of personality or values. The second date is about learning to recognize wh...

From Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

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Conversation 1: Appreciation

Appreciation is where it all begins. Early in any relationship, appreciation flows naturally—every smile, every text feels charged with admiration. But as familiarity sets in, daily life can dull that sense of wonder. We start noticing what our partner hasn’t done rather than what they’ve contribute...

From The Five Core Conversations for Couples: Daily Habits for Extraordinary Relationships

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Conversation 2: Concern

Many couples dread conversations about problems, fearing they’ll spiral into arguments or defensiveness. Yet avoiding these discussions is far more damaging. The key is learning how to express concerns without blame—and how to hear them without collapsing into self-defense. This conversation is abou...

From The Five Core Conversations for Couples: Daily Habits for Extraordinary Relationships

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Day 1 – Make Contact: The Power of Small Moments of Connection

The first step toward rekindling intimacy is deceptively simple: pay attention. Every day, your partner sends what we call 'bids for connection.' It might be a comment about their day, a sigh, a smile, or a glance—tiny invitations to engage. These moments determine whether a relationship thrives or ...

From The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy

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Day 2 – Ask a Big Question: The Art of Deep Curiosity

The next step toward closeness is opening up meaningful conversations. Relationships stagnate when partners stop being curious about each other. Over time, we can begin to assume we already know who our partner is, forgetting that people keep evolving. By asking what we call 'big questions,' you rek...

From The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy

About Julie Schwartz Gottman

John Gottman, Ph. , and Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph. , are co-founders of The Gottman Institute and world-renowned experts in relationship science.

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