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Joseph Grenny Books

2 books·~20 min total read

Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler are leadership experts and co-founders of VitalSmarts (now Crucial Learning).

Known for: Crucial Accountability: Tools for Resolving Violated Expectations, Broken Commitments, and Bad Behavior, Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

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Identifying the Gap

The first real step toward accountability begins not with speaking but with seeing. Most of us jump directly into conclusions—he’s lazy, she doesn’t care, they’re incompetent—without actually identifying the factual gap between what we expected and what occurred. The authors teach that accountabilit...

From Crucial Accountability: Tools for Resolving Violated Expectations, Broken Commitments, and Bad Behavior

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Choosing Whether to Hold the Conversation

Not every violated expectation warrants an accountability dialogue. One of the most liberating lessons in this book is learning that discretion strengthens credibility. We teach readers to ask: Is this issue significant enough to discuss? Will the outcome matter in terms of performance, trust, or re...

From Crucial Accountability: Tools for Resolving Violated Expectations, Broken Commitments, and Bad Behavior

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Recognize When a Conversation Turns Crucial

The most important conversations are often the ones we are least prepared to handle. A discussion becomes crucial when three conditions appear at once: stakes are high, opinions vary, and emotions run strong. In those moments, people stop behaving normally. They defend, exaggerate, shut down, interr...

From Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

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Dialogue Creates Better Decisions and Relationships

When people feel unsafe, conversation collapses; when conversation collapses, bad decisions follow. One of the book’s central ideas is that dialogue is the free flow of meaning between people. It is not mere politeness, argument, or compromise. True dialogue occurs when everyone can add their views ...

From Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

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Start with Heart Before You Speak

The quality of a conversation depends heavily on the motives you bring into it. Before you talk about anyone else’s behavior, you need to examine your own intent. The authors call this skill “starting with heart.” It means getting clear about what you really want for yourself, for the other person, ...

From Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

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Learn to Look for Safety Problems

Most people notice the content of a conversation but miss the conditions that shape it. The authors urge readers to “learn to look,” meaning pay attention not only to what is being said but also to whether dialogue is breaking down. The clearest sign of breakdown is the disappearance of safety. When...

From Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

About Joseph Grenny

Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler are leadership experts and co-founders of VitalSmarts (now Crucial Learning).

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Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler are leadership experts and co-founders of VitalSmarts (now Crucial Learning).

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